Jai Shree Krishna,

I always think about this "sutak" and "Suaalu"..

My question is why we are not doing seva at this time.. because I think that Somebody is dead means he went to God.. then why we people are not doing seva.. Because there is "Lala" at our house and ae have to everyday seva.. we treat like a child only.. then ..????

Is there is any reason for this??? or what??? I want to know..

Can you please anybody say me and help to clear my doubt.. I will be very thankful for you...

Jai Shree Krishna.

Kavita Wani

jai shri krishna,

If the girl(daughters) still not married she is in same gotra.

Jai Shree Krishna

Reeta ben is right, if the girl is unmarried, that is not given away in Kanyadaan, then the 16days sutak applies to her too.

As regards to not being given the right to do Tarpan etc., A daughter will/can get marreid afterwards, in which case her gotra will change, then she will no more be able to get involved in such ceremonies of her parents family, hence not allowed to take part in the ceremonies. Also Tarpan etc., are ceremonies linked with more Lineage and are to be performed as per the Lineage rites prescribed in the Shastras, that by the Son and his family, hence too Daughters do not form a part of the rituals.

For Example, one can belong to the same Gotra, but if the relationship is not paternal, then too, one cannot  take part in such ceremonies.

I think still Kavitha bens query remains unanwered. Any replies ???

jay jay shree gokulesh

i think that we are not allowed to do seva during sutak because we do have some affiliation with the person who died. and during seva our attention should not divert for shree thakorji.

so for those days we should not do seva

vaibhav

badhane Jai Shree Krishna,

Thanks for all of you, I felt very happy for all your reply.

But I again have doubt. I have not clear my doubt.

I know that daughter can do seva on those days, but if there is no daughter in house then who will do seva??

Who started this for 17 days?? yeah I agree with the Vaibhavji he says that we cant concentrate on thakurji. But if some other relatives died matlab koi dur no relatives. then also we get sutak. if he staying in another place and we are staying in another place. if there is nobody to do seva then who will do???

we cant left  "Lala" like this for 17 days. without anything. I get this problem.??? One day it was happend one of my relatives died and my inlaws went to vadodra.. I was staying alone then I told to one of my friend to do seva for some days. Then she was taking "Lala" to her place.. then suddenly "Lala" felt down.. At that time I felt very very very bad and sad about that. I was thinking that my "Lala" dont want to go from my house, and I am sending him. I was so worried.

Then what we can do at that time. ????

Jai Shree Krishna

Kavita Wani

Jai Shree Krishna

While appreciating your feeling for your Shree Thakorji, Kavita ben....

As per Mahaprabhuji and Shree Vallabhkuls agyaan, and also as par the Shastras, we are not allowed to do seva of Shree Thakorji during these 16 days.

And during those days it is best to have seva done by another Vaishnav, at your own place or at the Vaishnavs place. However, if no Vaishnavs are available who can do seva, then the least one ought to do is to request any availble Vaishanv with brahmasamband to atleast offer dryfruits bhog to Shree Thakorji, on those days.

Also these are only suggestions. For the best solution under such circumstances should be sought form ones own Guru / Gurughar, and follow the same.